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need some dating advice
For the past two years Ive been having a relationhip with my trainer. It was one of those relationships that clearly wasnt going anywhere but it gave us both companionship. The problem is that since Ive gotten bigger I dont seem to get asked out as much. Today a guy who used to want to date me for years {16 years to be exact from high school to a year ago}told me I was no longer his type and that most men in general dont want to date a girl who looks stronger and and in some cases have bigger muscles then they do. Anyhow, my relationship with my trainer needs to end because its going nowhere, I really dont like dating but need to or I will be single forever. How do those of you here who are single go about dating when you are pretty muscular? Im really not sure how to get a date now which is a weird situation for me to be in. It seems like even the guys in the gym are more interested in meeting for a workout than hanging out afterwards or getting together outside the club. I assume I need to date a rather muscular man who wouldnt feel inferior and have his own confidence. However they all seem to date the skinny little women, Anyone in my shoes have any dating tips? Chelsea
PS> I am not really that big, 5'6", 125 lbs and I like myself at this weight. | | Reply » need some dating advice |
I just been going thru the different sectiona and came in here for the first time so I hope you ladies dont mind me throwing my 2 cents in here
Chelsea I think that you sound like you are lonely(nothing wrong with that)and that because of this you are willing to settle for less than you deserve.
What do you deserve? well thats something you will have to find out for yourself.
Meaning which yes you will have to date to find that person but maybe you should loosen up trying to find someone and just date different people, eventually you will bump into that person who you click with and them with you. As far as finding someone bigger well may be the person you will click with wont even be someone who works out, and you know what if you love hi and he loves you that wont matter as it will open both of you up to different worlds and interests.
But if you are not willing to go out and meet people and actually date many people and go thru the tedious bullshit how will you ever know what you want/dont want.
As far as your trainer goes, well sounds like he needs the boot personally and professionally as both those situationa arent going to mesh without the other. Sorry but thats the bottom line
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Milhouse,
I think you have a point. Its just been a rough week. My son is away for summer visitation with his dad so my house is pretty quiet which is unusual. Then combine that with ending the situation with my trainer who I probably need to stop working out with and then just coming off a cycle Im probably a little hormonal to top it all off. It just seems I used to have a lot more dating options. Although I dont really like going out at night Im going to out with the girls tonight so we will see how that goes. Chelsea
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something to consider is that most of the guys in the gym know about you and the trainer . some of them may change their intentions after you are unattached .
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Excellent advice, Millie. 
BTW...welcome to the Femme Forum. 
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Chelsea, slow down and take it easy girl. There's no hurry to find "mr. right". I've always said NO-ONE can be truly happy in any relationship untill they are happy by themselves. No guy is gonna walk in and *poof* you are happy. When you are secure in your own skin and happy with where you are as a person, you will eventually meet someone who interests you, challenges you, "completes you" (yeah, that was cheesy but you get my drift). Hang in there, hun, and in the meantime just have some fun! 
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